Need to vent...

Ok, so I've been married for 8 years and together for 11. I have always had issues with my mother-n-law even before she became my m-n-l. At one point my husband and I broke up when dating because of her. I like to think of myself as a strong woman. I didn't always used to be. I was sexually assaulted, made fun of in school, shy, had low self-esteem and then as I got older I realized I wanted to be in control of my life and never let anyone control or hurt me again. Well, my m-n-l is a strong-headed women as well so we tend to butt heads a lot. She has always babied my husband and very controlling and of course that doesn't sit well with me. When we met, he was 21 and his mom was still making/packing his lunches (putting his sandwhiches is a mickey mouse sandwhich keeper) for him, did his laundry, folded it, took it to his room, well you get the picture. By the time I was 16 I was doing my own laundry, bought my own toiletries and when we met I was 20 and I certainly made my own lunches. My husband and I moved an hour and a half away from our families and on an average we come home about 2-3 times a month for the weekend. We used to go home every weekend whether there was a reason to or not but the packing and running around got old real quick, so after our 1st year of marriage I said we would only go home when there was something to go home for. I don't know about you people, but I work all week and I like to enjoy my weekends the way I want to not the way other people think I should. Weekends are when we clean, do yard work, laundry, grocery shopping and all those things have to be put to the side every time we have to go up. Now, don't get me wrong I'm not saying I never want to see our families again, but what I am saying is that I shouldn't have to be made to feel guilty for doing what I want. Nothing is ever good enough. We always make sure we see both sets of parents when up, unless there is a scheduling conflict. We do spend the night at my parent's house more, yes, but we do make time for Ken's family and we do stay over night sometimes. There are times we are up and I don't get to see my family, but that's just the way it goes sometimes. Well, I've had it! I'm tired of trying to make everyone happy. I'm tired of spreading my 2 days off between 2 families just to be fair. Ken's mom always has a comment, always has to put a guilt trip on until she gets her way and I say no more. I'm doing what I want, when I want and I don't care. I know when you get married, you marry their family as well and sometimes you have to suck it up and do things that you don't want to out of respect for your spouse, but this has gone on too far and too long. With being on Paul's program now for over 4 months it has taught much more than how to lose weight. I am in control over my food, I have self-confidence and now I want control back in my life too. Well, I can't say I feel better, but I do feel good that I was able to get some of my thoughts out. It's still my husband's mom, so I can only do so much venting to him out of respect.